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Identify your expectation filter and understand its impact on your relationship

Acknowledging expectations is the first step to managing them effectively

Unfulfilled expectations often become the source of conflict because preconceived notion distorts the actual experience

Commitment is rarely discussed but when it is, it is usually being threatened

Commitment is not just a verbal exchange; it is a way of living out your relationship through meaningful actions that honour your verbal exchange.

If you are engaged, notice the ways in which your commitment to your partner and your relationship are on display for others to honour. If you are married, acknowledge that the ring on your finger tells everyone you are committed to your partner.

Commitment is the foundational agreement of a relationship

If you took an assessment or are working through aspects if your relationship, or just reading this blog, not only are you committed to strengthening your relationship, but you are committed to your partner.

Nurture closeness and intimacy, and also your own independence

It’s critical to nurture closeness and intimacy in your relationship, but don’t forget to maintain your own sense of independence and identity, communicate with your partner to find an appropriate balance for your relationship.

Negotiate an equitable outcome between time together and time apart

Couples exist on a spectrum between "I" and "We", but the key is to strive for a healthy balance that strengthens your relationship.

Discuss possible outcomes that provide a balance between "I" and "We"

Working toward or maintaining balance between togetherness and separateness requires healthy communication. Talk to each other about what balance feels like for each of you. It won’t always be equal and it will change throughout your life together but have the conversation and negotiate an equitable outcome.

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