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Active listening is listening attentively without interrupting

There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening.

The process of active listening lets the speaker know if their message was accurately received. It’s imperative for the listener to acknowledge the content and the feelings of the speaker. Acknowledge content AND the feelings of the speaker. The active listening process lets the sender know whether or not the message they sent was clearly understood by having the listener restate what they heard.

Active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and restating what was heard.

Examples of Active Listening:

  • “I heard you say you are feeling ‘out of balance’, and enjoyed the time we spend together but that you also need more time to be with your friends... and you want to plan a time to talk about this.”
  • “If I understand what you said, you are concerned because you want to go skiing next winter. But you think I would rather to go to the beach. Is that correct?”

When each person knows what the other person feels and wants (assertiveness) and when each knows they have been heard and understood (active listening), intimacy is increased.

These two communication skills can help you grow closer as a couple. When communicating with your partner, try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

If you and your partner ever feel overwhelmed by your results or the ensuing discussion, we encourage you to seek out professional support. Call us.

Consider taking an assessment or working through our Discussion Guide for Couples... that's a great place start! 

Tune in for more tips next week.

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