Marriage mentoring is a couple-to-couple relationship that seeks to help couples live out their vision for marriage. For couples who are intent on building a happy marriage, mentoring brings sage advice, personal support and encouragement, and help in hard times.
Implementing a Marriage Mentor Program in your organisation, church or community can be an exciting and powerful addition to your educational programs, ministry or outreach to your community. A formal mentoring program often ensures that premarital couples get more preparation, and get it earlier in their engagement; two factors which promote healthier relationships.
Following is a description of three mentoring phases for supervisors and marriage mentors to consider:
1. Premarital or Dating Phase: The Premarital Phase focuses on premarital training using the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment combined with feedback sessions using the Couple’s Workbook. Premarital mentoring is appropriate for both engaged and seriously dating couples. In fact, dating couples often beneﬁt from mentoring because they are not yet distracted by wedding planning.
2. Newlywed Phase: The Newlywed Phase extends the initial mentoring process to newlywed couples. Marriage mentors meet at least three more times with each newlywed couple during their ﬁrst year of marriage. They complete the process with a ﬁrst anniversary Couple Checkup.
3. Marital Phase: The Marital Phase focuses on enriching the relationship and strengthening the couple’s communication and conﬂict resolution skills. Marriage mentors meet with the couple regularly (for five to eight feedback sessions) using the PREPARE/ENRICH assessment and Couple’s Workbook.
What are the benefits?
For leaders, supervisors, the PREPARE/ENRICH Marriage Mentor Program provides the tools to train Marriage Mentors to work with premarital, newlywed, and married couples. The program is designed to be flexible so that it can be tailored to fit the needs of each organisation, congregation or group. Feel free to adapt it in a way that will be most effective for your setting.
The resources include: Supervisor Training Guide (with Supervisor CD) Marriage Mentor Manual with training resources in Appendices.
Studies demonstrate the value of the PREPARE/ENRICH Marriage Mentor Program: Review the Studies on Marriage Mentor Programs.