avoid using blameful language

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language as that invites negativity into the situation

Pick your battles is often given as advice for avoiding unnecessary conflict, but if you apply this advice to serious issues, it can be detrimental to your relationship.

Pride, bias and defensive mechanisms prevent us from dealing with conflict in a healthy, productive manner. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are strategies you and your partner can use to effectively deal with conflict in your relationship.

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Assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship

Assertiveness is expressing your feelings and asking for what you want in the relationship

There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening.

To be assertive, it’s important to take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings by using “I” statements instead of starting with “you.” In making constructive requests, be positive and respectful in communication. Use polite phrases such as “please” and “thank you”. Try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

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