In long-term relationships, we often get to a certain point and feel as if we know “everything” about our partner. But whether you’ve been together for 3 years or 30+, there’s a good chance that there are still new things to learn about each other - it just might require more digging than it did when you were first getting to know each other.
But over time, we also change as individuals, which makes knowing everything about each other somewhat of a moving target. And that’s why we should strive to be lifelong learners about each other!
Following on from last weeks post, here are some tips on how you can be a lifelong learner in your relationship.
- Teach each other: It’s relatively common knowledge that experiencing new things together brings you closer as a couple - it’s the essence of dating, after all! But let’s be honest, we don’t always have the time or money for “novelty experience” dates. Plus, they don’t always offer the opportunity for great conversation. What if you took turns teaching each other a skill or hobby of your own instead? Whether it’s getting a lesson in gardening or learning to change a tire, you might be surprised by how much your partner knows about a certain topic. Ask questions. Be an enthusiastic student. You might see sides of each other you don’t usually get to see.
Lifelong educational learning benefits your mind and well-being in a myriad of ways. Lifelong learning about your partner does the same for your relationship in the form of increased connection and positive growth as individuals and as a couple. It acts as a foil to complacency as it requires continuouscommunication. After all, lifelong really is lifelong. The catch to lifelong learning is that the more you already know (whether it’s about auto repair, gardening, or your partner), the more effort you’ll need to put in to learn something new. But in the end, it’ll only enhance your journey together, and we think you’ll find it’s worth it.