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What did you most enjoy about your relationship today? 5 minutes a day can transform your relationship

By taking time each day to talk and focus on your partner can make a huge difference in the short and medium term. Used to increase intimacy, daily dialogue is designed to activate discussion, discovery, and increase the overall quality of your relationship.

When communicating with your partner, try to avoid blame, criticism, and judgement. Instead, focus on the good!

Sure, we communicate with our partners, but the quality (which really matters) is not always a concern. Productive, supportive, positive communication is vital to relationship health. Give praise to your partner and share affirmations which help increase the overall quality of communication.

People high in avoidance tend to feel dominated by their partner

Based on the research, we have discovered there is a positive cycle linking assertiveness and self-confidence and a negative cycle linking avoidance and perceived dominance.

In the positive cycle, as a person uses more assertiveness, their level of self confidence tends to increase. As a person’s self confidence increases, their willingness and ability to be more assertive increases.

In the negative cycle, when one person perceives their partner as dominating, a common reaction is for that person to avoid dealing with issues. As a person uses more avoidance, they will often perceive more dominance in their partner.

Positive and Negative cycles in Relationships: Self-confidence focuses on how good a person feels about himself/herself

Based on the research, we have discovered there is a positive cycle linking assertiveness and self-confidence and a negative cycle linking avoidance and perceived dominance. In the positive cycle, as a person uses more assertiveness, their level of self confidence tends to increase. As a person’s self confidence increases, their willingness and ability to be more assertive increases. In the negative cycle, when one person perceives their partner as dominating, a common reaction is for that person to avoid dealing with issues. As a person uses more avoidance, they will often perceive more dominance in their partner.

Positive and Negative cycles in Relationships: Assertive people tend to feel better about themselves because they are able to express themselves

Based on the research, we have discovered there is a positive cycle linking assertiveness and self-confidence and a negative cycle linking avoidance and perceived dominance. In the positive cycle, as a person uses more assertiveness, their level of self confidence tends to increase. As a person’s self confidence increases, their willingness and ability to be more assertive increases. In the negative cycle, when one person perceives their partner as dominating, a common reaction is for that person to avoid dealing with issues. As a person uses more avoidance, they will often perceive more dominance in their partner.

The earlier the Better: Encouraging couples to take PREPARE/ENRICH

Encourage couples that are thinking about or planning their marriage to see the value of taking Prepare earlier rather than later in the marriage planning process.

Nine things successful couples do differently

Successful Couples

Communication is the answer to a successful marriage - but you already knew that! Whilst the absence of communication may be a leading cause of divorce, fulfilling your wedding vows is easier if your marriage is based on open communication. Learning to communicate well with your partner is not as easy as it sounds, but it can help resolve problems before they start to affect your marriage.

Win-Win Communication: What is your common style?

What is your communication style? Generally, there are four common styles:

Intentional Parenting: 8 ways to be intentional with the time you have to spend with your family - Prepare a meal and eat together

Here are a few ideas which may get you thinking of how you can do “small things often” and turn towards your partner to show them you are loving them intentionally. In turn these small things will add to your emotional bank account, deposits that create a stronger bond in your partnership.

Working with Re-Marrying Couples

A review of the research literature from 1980 to the present on the premarital predictors of re-marrying couples' relationship satisfaction and quality (Falk & Larson, 2007) concluded that the major factors predicting lower re-marriage quality include:

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  • the roles of stepchildren
  • stepfamily complexity
  • emotional attachment to an ex-spouse
  • serial marriage (a history of re-marriage)
  • economic strain

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