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Helping couples navigate life transitions

Getting engaged. Moving in together. Combining finances. Getting married. Becoming parents. Changing careers. Moving to a new city. Adjusting to an empty nest. Retirement.

Setting couple goals for 2018

This year, my wife and I have set goals for ourselves individually, as a couple, family goals and work goals.

Commit to evaluating your next conflict and take time to discuss how you dealt with the disagreement

Since it often takes time to learn new strategies and because conflicts organically develop, make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict.

Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

When dealing with conflict in your relationship, it's important to resist the urge to bring up past experiences that have already been resolved and reopen them for discussion. Acknowledging the current disagreement and working through the conflict by actively listening to your partner is a great goal.

Make a commitment to evaluate your next conflict

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but if dealt with in a healthy, productive, and respectful way, it can bring you closer as a couple and make your relationship stronger.

Conflict dealt with in a healthy, productive and respectful way can bring you closer

Conflict is inevitable in relationships, but if dealt with in a healthy, productive, and respectful way, it can bring you closer as a couple and make your relationship stronger.

There is no sense in trying to have a discussion if you’ve already made up your mind before you have started

The development of skills can all to easily become over-shadowed by the feedback process. Aiming for a balanced approach in which feedback and the development of skills (e.g. good listening skills and constructive ways of handling conflict) are both valued is a good goal.

Neutralise as many distractions as you can

The development of skills can all to easily become over-shadowed by the feedback process. Aiming for a balanced approach in which feedback and the development of skills (e.g. good listening skill and constructive ways of handling conflict) are both valued is a good goal.

When conflict arises, avoid using blameful language towards your partner as that invites negativity into the situation

Let’s be honest—you and your partner are going to have disagreements. Sometimes they’ll be small (What movie should we watch?), but sometimes they’ll be more serious (When are we going to have children?).

Communicate assertively, take responsibility for your own feelings and actions, and focus solely on the issue at hand

It’s important to resist the urge to bring up past experiences that have already been resolved and reopen them for discussion. Acknowledge the current disagreement and
work through the conflict by actively listening to your partner. Respect your partner, remember you are on the same team, and know it’s okay to take a time out if you need
to. While embracing the conflict and dealing with it can be uncomfortable, it can ultimately bring you closer as a couple.

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