We’ve all heard of a honeymoon. It’s the classic traditional holiday that a couple takes straight after they’ve said “I do” to enjoy some sunshine (or snow) together and celebrate the beginning of the rest of their lives. But recently, more couples have been choosing to take ‘solo-moons’ following their nuptials, with the concept having almost 1500 mentions on Instagram in recent months.
What is a solo-moon, and why are they so popular?
A solo-moon is where couples decide to opt out of the free champagne, flowers and honeymoon suites that often accompany a traditional honeymoon, and instead go for independent adventures (whether in different countries, different cities or at different times) after they’re married. Couples are choosing to do this as a way to dramatically assert their separate identities, and ‘start as they intend to continue’ in terms of maintaining their independence within their marriage.
Couples are also considering solo-moons as a way to maintain flexibility with work schedules, as it can often be difficult for couples to get time off from work at the same time to enjoy a honeymoon together.
How solo-moons can make weddings simpler?
It eases the financial burden
You may think that taking two separate holidays after your wedding would be much more expensive, given that everything essentially has to be paid for twice. However, it could actually work out to be the same price (obviously depending on the destinations you each choose). Two separate trips could even work out to be less if we assume that solo travellers will be less focussed on luxury accommodation and experiences.
This is because, if you’re off venturing by yourself, you may be more inclined to stay at hostels or affordable hotels, visit old friends and couch surf or grab quick (yet delicious) street food meals.
It takes the stress out of planning and admin
Although we’d like to think that the burden of planning a wedding is always equally shared between parties, more often than not it can end up falling on one particular person’s shoulders. Deciding to take individual solo-moons halves the burden of honeymoon planning, as each person will be responsible for creating their own solo adventure.
You can get excited about pursuing your own passions and interests
Solo-moons are gaining popularity as it provides couples with an opportunity to explore their different interests and passions. For example, the new bride may feel like lounging on a beach in Thailand after the many months of stressful planning and organising that often come with having a wedding, whereas the groom may feel like hitting the slopes of Austria or Switzerland, indulging his love of skiing or snowboarding. One couple from Ireland who indulged in a solo-moon reported feeling excited to get back to their home country to see their loved one and share their stories of adventure.
Tips to find a solo-moon
Communicating your intentions to go solo with your partner
Women are actually the ones leading the way with solo travel, with a recent survey showing that 72 percent of women are likely to travel alone. Solo travel was once viewed as a pretty risky activity for females, however, improvements in accessibility, safety and a growing global community of inspiration and support have opened up the floodgates.
If you’re getting married and are considering the option of a solo-moon, gently introduce the subject with your fiance first. Explain to them the benefits and the types of destinations you’d have in mind, so you can first gauge whether it’s something they might potentially be interested in.
Do your research and shop around
Technology has played an enormous role in giving people the opportunity to compare loads of different accommodation and travel options to give themselves the chance of finding the best deal.
If you’re having trouble deciding where to go on your solo-moon, then think about places that you’ve always wanted to visit (or experiences you’ve always wanted to have) that are fairly individual to you and that your partner may not enjoy. After all, if you’re both in the mood for a tropical beach holiday, you may as well both go to Bora Bora!
Always wanted to see the Northern Lights but your partner hates the cold? Is your partner obsessed with the Egyptian pyramids but you’re not fussed? Take advantage of the opportunity to go your separate ways for a while and come up with some creative ideas.
Find smart ways to stay safe
Travelling solo can be daunting, especially if you don’t have that much experience with it and you’ve usually travelled in groups. However, there are lots of things you can do to boost the safety factor of your solo adventure.
- Let someone know your itinerary
- Keep in contact with your partner (obviously!)
- Watch your drinks when at restaurants or bars
- Try to learn some of the language of the country you’re visiting
- Research your destination beforehand
- Keep your cash in multiple locations
- Arrive in new cities during daylight
- Have a secure cross-body bag for your passport and cash
Rhojan Viloria is an avid writer from Western Sydney with a keen interest in learning more about the world through travel. He spends his extra time catching up on all the latest forms of popular entertainment including TV, Movies, and Music. To find out more about Rhojan Viloria, check out his website here!