Ask questions and stay curious: 3 Ways to be a Lifelong Learner in Your Relationship

In long-term relationships, we often get to a certain point and feel as if we know “everything” about our partner. But whether you’ve been together for 3 years or 30+, there’s a good chance that there are still new things to learn about each other - it just might require more digging than it did when you were first getting to know each other.

Over time, we also change as individuals, which makes knowing everything about each other somewhat of a moving target. And that’s why we should strive to be lifelong learners about each other!

Following on from last weeks post, here are some tips on how you can be a lifelong learner in your relationship.

  • Be curious: Maybe your partner still listens to that same album on repeat just like they did 20 years ago—it really is their all-time favorite. Have you asked them why? Maybe you did – 20 years ago. Have you asked them lately? The reasons could be the same, but maybe they aren’t. Since you know the album hasn’t changed in 20 years, it could mean something in your partner has.

By asking questions and staying curious about your partner, you gain insight and learn more about them—as they currently are, instead of whom you’ve always assumed them to be.

Lifelong educational learning benefits your mind and well-being in a myriad of ways. Lifelong learning about your partner does the same for your relationship in the form of increased connection and positive growth as individuals and as a couple. It acts as a foil to complacency as it requires continuous communication.

After all, lifelong really is lifelong. The catch to lifelong learning is that the more you already know (whether it’s about auto repair, gardening, or your partner), the more effort you’ll need to put in to learn something new. But in the end, it’ll only enhance your journey together, and we think you’ll find it’s worth it.

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