Avoidant Men and Assertive Women and Issues with Effective Conflict Resolution

Couples often present with serious communication issues. This can sometimes be seen in the pattern of scores in the Conflict Resolution category (individual dissatisfaction and low couple positive agreement scores). It can also be evident in the avoidance scores – sometimes one partner is avoidant of conflict whereas the other is happy to tackle it head on.

Take your time... and allow for plenty of time with couples to reflect

There are occasions when we become aware that as facilitators we are not able to allow sufficient time between the couple receiving and working with their feedback and the date of their marriage.

Family experience tends to shape attachment in relationships: Handling anxiety and avoidance with premarital couples

Many studies have explored the way in which there can be a gradual transfer of the form of attachment to parents and other significant relationships in the past, to future attachment towards a partner in a close relationship. Whilst research suggests that family experience tends to shape attachment in relationships, the results vary with some individuals becoming avoidant, whilst some are unconcerned and non-anxious about future relationships. Others tends to become fearful and anxious, or insecure about future relationships.

Feedback versus counselling?

The late John Robson, one of the founders of PREPARE/ENRICH in Australia, wrote the following brief article several years ago when asked to distinguish between the processes of providing feedback and counselling. John wrote…

Working with Disengaged Premarital Couples

Sometimes a premarital couple describes their own relationship as being disengaged and yet they appear to be satisfied in general.  Also, they often believe that they will inevitably become more connected with each other after they are married.

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