The development of skills can all to easily become over-shadowed by the feedback process. Aiming for a balanced approach in which feedback and the development of skills (e.g. good listening skill and constructive ways of handling conflict) are both valued is a good goal.
Move forward when both partners can confidently answer: Yes. We are ready to have a constructive .
We have provided some thoughts to consider:
Check your space
- Do your kids require your attention?
- Is the TV on?
- Is your phone on silent?
- Is your computer/tablet within reach?
- Is the oven timer about to beep, signaling dinner is ready?
Neutralise as many distractions as you can. Try to occupy your kids with other activities, turn off the TV, put your phone on silent and flip it over so you can’t see notifications, put away your computer/tablet, and maybe try discussing after dinner. Of course, it’s okay to keep a device at hand if you’re using it to help guide the discussion.
- Where are you going to sit and talk?
- Sitting at the kitchen table or on the couch?
- While on a walk through your neighbourhood?
- Find a location that is comfortable and somewhat private so you can have those honest discussions.
We suggest placing yourselves shoulder to shoulder instead of knee to knee, as it promotes the idea that you are on the same team. It can feel less confrontational than being across from each other.
If you decide you are ready to move forward with reviewing your relationship and working through various issues —that’s awesome.
If you decide you need to make some adjustments before discussing – that’s good too! The goal is to get talking to your partner, even if that conversation doesn’t happen right away.
PREPARE/ENRICH has several resources to help you unpack and mine the assessment results around communication and conflict.
Source: DISCUSSION GUIDE FOR COUPLES, PREPARE/ENRICH 2017
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