Money causes tension when there isn’t enough, when it isn’t allocated correctly, and when there are different ideas surrounding its purpose. And the conflict tends to grows out of a lack of understanding and communication around money and how it relates to your relationship.
If you need assistance getting out of debt, practical budgeting, advice for today, or saving for the future – there are many resources available specifically to help couples improve their financial management skills.
The goal here is to help you understand how money impacts your
relationship with your partner.
The first step to gaining an understanding is to be aware of your
own experiences with money. We first learn about money from our
family of origin*; it’s where we learn how to spend, how to save, and
what money means. These ideas may change throughout life, but
the influence of first impressions is significant.
If your partner is actively listening to your message, they will be primed to acknowledge your feelings when making financial decisions in the future and vice versa.
Another step towards understanding how money impacts your
relationship is to discuss the practical aspect of money – income vs.
expenses – and the responsibilities that come with it.
The balance that works for your relationship may not be completely
equal, but that’s ok; the key is finding a balanced distribution to which you agree.
A final step to understanding is recognizing the way in which
money can strengthen your relationship, perhaps through
generosity and giving.
Practicing assertive communication with your partner about emotions you have surrounding money (fear, joy,
anxiety, etc.) is important because it helps your partner begin to understand how you relate to money.
* Family of origin refers to the group of family members with whom you grew up which often includes parents and siblings.
Often times finances are an area of concern and/or stress for couples. In addition they may be an area of stress for Facilitators! How do I, as a Facilitator, help couples have meaningful skill-building dialogue around money? PREPARE/ENRICH has several resources to help you unpack and mine the assessment results around money.
PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.
For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich #strongerrelationships