We know that life can be hard sometimes and that it can take a toll on your relationship - but can positivity play a role in your marriage?
Imagine this: It's a Tuesday morning; you forgot to set your alarm last night. You wake up half an hour late and no longer have time to shower before work. Scrambling to get in on time, you forget to grab an orange - which you have every morning for breakfast. Once you get into work, ten minutes late, you find you are scheduled for a morning meeting ... again. Bewildered by the audacity of your supervisor, you reluctantly accept the scheduled meeting on your computer and start to prepare for it.
Ten thirty rolls around and you walk into the meeting. Everyone is laughing, smiling, having a general good time and you roll your eyes to yourself - it's a Tuesday, why is everyone so cheerful. Twenty minutes into the painfully "fun" meeting you sputter out a chuckle.
What. Where did that come from?
It's almost as if your coworkers' positivity had an impact on your mood.
Believe it or not, the people you spend your time with can affect your attitude towards your day, your week, and even your life in general. When you have a positive outlook, it can help your mood which has been shown to affect your health. Here are some things that a positive outlook can do to affect your life:
- There's more laughter
- A valuable source of motivation
- Attracts other happy people
- Reduces stress
- Lowers risk for heart-related health problems
If we know that a positive outlook affects your mood and your health - what if we think about it in terms of your relationship? If you have a poor attitude at work, school, or in general about your life you may be projecting that attitude onto your marriage without knowing it. If you know having a positive outlook on life can lower your health risks, think about what having a positive outlook on your relationship could do for your marriage's health.
Take some time each day to remember the good in your relationship, even when you're running late because your spouse couldn't figure out which tie to wear, or bitter that you missed the bus because your partner was having a bad hair day, or stressed that your partner forgot to pick up more milk for the recipe you are making tonight. What is your marriage attitude? A little grace, empathy, and thankfulness might give you the boost you need. Healthy, happy couples have healthy, happy relationships.
And lastly, remember to smile.
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