Marriage mentoring is a couple-to-couple relationship that seeks to help couples live out their vision for marriage. For couples who are intent on building a happy marriage, mentoring brings sage advice, personal support and encouragement, and help in hard times.
Marriage mentors are not counselors, and the goal of this program is not to make mentors into professional marriage therapists. Instead, the goal is to focus on equiping mentors to be key players in preventing problems and equiping young couples with the skills and tools for more successful relationships. It is also important for marriage mentors to know when and how to refer a couple to a professional counsellor.
A mentor couple helps the couple they are mentoring to talk about their vision (expectations, hopes, and dreams) for their marriage. They concentrate on the couple’s strengths and what’s good in the couple’s relationship. They teach skills couples need and help them identify their goals as a couple. Marriage mentors encourage and empower the couple they are mentoring to design a successful, lifelong relationship.
Differences between Marriage Mentoring and Traditional Counselling:
- Marriage mentors focus on current and future possibilities. Counselling also deals with past history;
- Marriage mentors use a practical, proactive approach. Counselling adds a more in-depth psychological approach;
- Marriage mentors focus on enhancing wellness and utilising strengths. Counselling also focuses on healing emotional wounds;
- Marriage mentors ask “What?” and “How?” Counsellors also ask “Why?”;
- Marriage mentors work on wants and dreams. Counselling provides further help for issues and problems;
- The purpose of Marriage Mentoring is largely to help empower a couple to achieve their goals whereas the purpose of Counselling is often, to relieve pain and symptoms and restore functioning so that individuals can pursue their goals;
- Marriage mentors are an encouraging, supportive friend whereas a Counsellor is an encouraging, supportive, and licensed expert; and
- Marriage mentors teach relationship skills whereas a Counsellor deals with complex personality and relationship dynamics.
NOTE: If a couple has a problem with severe abuse, addiction, repeated inﬁdelity, clinical depression, psychological disorder, or uncontrollable anger in their relationship, they should work with a licensed therapist or counsellor who has extensive experience and training in those areas.
Here is one service to try: www.theaca.net.au/find-registered-counsellor
Tune in next week for a discussion in the options for developing a Marriage Mentoring Program.
For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH Marriage Mentor program or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: www.prepare-enrich.com.au or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich
Simply click on the Register button below relevant to your relationship - it couldn't be easier. Once you have finished the questions you should receive your comprehensive personalised report in about 30 seconds.
The Couple Checkup generates deep and productive conversations that couples would not otherwise have about their relationship. These conversations restore insight and understanding about one another. The Couple Checkup can help to revive a relationship and increase intimacy.
The Couple Checkup is an online couple assessment based on the PREPARE/ENRICH couple inventories. The Checkup assessment and Checkup report are designed to go directly to couples at any stage of their relationship (dating, engaged or married). The online system allows for dynamic customization of the assessment to each couple based on how the couple answers background questions. The goal is for the Couple Checkup to reach a more diverse group of couples, to empower couples to deal with issues on their own and to emphasize prevention over remediation.