Take your time... and allow for plenty of time with couples to reflect

There are occasions when we become aware that as facilitators we are not able to allow sufficient time between the couple receiving and working with their feedback and the date of their marriage.

What if they think that it is not a good idea to get married after all?

They probably would go ahead because it is simply too late to change the practical arrangements and it would upset too many people.

Of course, the facilitator can’t always control the timing, but where you can it is good to allow for plenty of time. How much is hard to say, but we certainly need to try to avoid the situation where the wedding follows the feedback sessions by less than a month. We recommend that you have your first session with your couple as early as possible when they come to you enquiring about marriage. This allows both yourself and the couple time to work on the issues that may be highlighted in the PREPARE/ENRICH couple report.

We appreciate that there are times when you need to meet with couples quickly and since reports can be downloaded, this can be done.

Facilitators need to be sure to allow plenty of time to get a comprehensive and accurate picture of the couple based on the very detailed information contained in the Report:

PLEASE DON'T... just put the Report aside when it is available to download. It is all too easy to neglect to review the Report well before the couple meet with you for feedback. You will then lose the benefit of being aware of the main themes, trends and patterns that apply to the couple and being able to reflect on the best ways of working with the couple in a relaxed and thoughtful way.

PLEASE DON'T... allow yourself to get into the situation where you have a couple sitting with you and you are seeing the report for the first time, or even discovering that you can't find or don't have the Report.

PLEASE DO... make sure that you review the Report well before the couple come for their first feedback session. Having the knowledge on the "backburner" means that you have the time to process that knowledge carefully, almost unconsciously, without it being a rushed, stressful and potentially incomplete exercise.

#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.

For more information on PREPARE/ENRICH or support with a couple or to simply set up a couple on the tool, please contact: or call today (02) 9520 4049 #prepareenrich

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