A major finding of recent research into the effects of cohabitation on subsequent marital outcomes is the potential detrimental consequences of ‘sliding’ in relationships rather than ‘deciding’ – that is letting transition events ‘just happen’ rather than making a considered, unambiguous decision.
Other key areas!
Expectations and decision-making
How have various transition points - e.g. dating exclusively, starting a sexual relationship, moving in together, buying furniture or a pet together, buying or leasing a residence, engagement etc. - been decided? Is the sexual relationship the primary element that keeps them together?
A discussion of their relationship history could help the couple contrast the difference between clarity in decision-making with inertia in decision-making.
Additionally, children may have a significant impact on the decision to marry. Ask what factors have prompted (or delayed) their marriage.
The PREPARE/ENRICH inventory is customised for couples already living together (with or without children), particularly those who are intending to marry. The Marriage Expectations category is intended to assist couples explore the impact that living together has had upon their relationship and to provide a springboard for considering the further changes and effects that might emerge when they marry. Other categories tap into issues that may have arisen during the experience of cohabitation.
Some of the features include:
- Items are designed to help couples understand and focus on issues related to cohabiting.
- Background questions ask about family and other relative’s feelings about their cohabiting.
- Cohabitation Issues - 10 items explored.
- Exercises you can use to ensure that you have covered all the relevant issues.
#PREPARE/ENRICH is a customised online assessment tool that identifies each couples unique strength and growth areas. Based on their assessment results, a facilitator provides feedback sessions, helping couples to discuss and understand their results while teaching them proven relationship skills.
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