Successful couples focus on getting better, rather than being good and they reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do. In marriage, successful couples are intentional about their relationship, they communicate well and often.
Heidi Halvorson’s book, 9 Things Successful People do Differently provides a clear, practical guide for people to reach their goals and not surprisingly, successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do. Developed for business people - I have adapted it to marriage and in marriage it’s about being intentional about the couple relationship, communicating well and often.
Following on from last weeks blog, successful couples do the following things:5. They focus on getting better rather than being good:
- We are all capable of improvement and if we take this into our relationships, we can focus on getting better, rather than being perfect. Successful couples appreciate that change is inevitable, therefore they focus on getting better through enhanced awareness and careful exploration of issues and by developing and improving skills to deal with those issues. They remain flexible and allow for error and therefore alleviate anxiety. They see improvement and they are encouraged and energised - they enjoy the journey as well as the destination.
Learning to communicate well with each other is not as easy as it sounds, but it can help resolve problems before they start to affect their marriage.
Tune in next week for more things successful couples do differently.
Source: 1] Halvorson, H.G. (2011). 9 Things Successful People do Differently. Boston, Massachusetts: Harvard Business Review Press.
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