Nine things successful couples do differently - they are optimistic but realistic and keep check of their commitments and reassess them regularly

Successful couples are realistic about how hard it may be and they plan to deal with those issues and problems as they arise. They visualise the steps to success and they assess the risks and mitigate them always.

Heidi Halvorson’s book, 9 Things Successful People do Differently[1] provides a clear, practical guide for people to reach their goals and not surprisingly, successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are, but more often because of what they do. Developed for business people - I have adapted it to marriage and in marriage it’s about being intentional about the couple relationship, communicating well and often.

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Following on from last weeks blog, successful couples do the following things:

4. They are realistic optimists: 
    A huge issue for many couples is over-optimism and over-commitment. All the best motivational speakers and self-improvement guru’s say that being optimistic is critical but they don’t tell you of the broken dreams and promises not met.
    Successful couples are optimistic but realistic. They also keep check of their commitments and they reassess them regularly. They believe they are going to succeed but they don’t for a moment think that it is going to be easy. They keep their eye on their goals, but they know that most will only be realised through effort, persistence and careful planning. 

Learning to communicate well with each other is not as easy as it sounds, but it can help resolve problems before they start to affect their marriage.

Tune in next week for more things successful couples do differently.

Source: 1] Halvorson, H.G. (2011). 9 Things Successful People do Differently. Boston, Massachusetts: Harvard Business Review Press.
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