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Tips for PREPARE/ENRICH facilitators: Navigating Problems Associated with Unrealistic Expectations - Create Dialogue

When couples hit the inevitable challenges of marriage, they may be tempted to believe that they have made a mistake and “the one” must still be out there somewhere. The truth is there are likely several people on this earth with whom one could have a successful relationship.

Almost intoxicated by love, engaged couples are often known for being infatuated with one another. They tend to be confident that they’ll never have problems or that existing problems will just fade away with time, they’ll never question their love, never experience a drop in romance, and already know everything there is to know about their partner. They truly are love struck.

The Problem with Unrealistic Expectations

While the phenomenon of being love struck is quite normal, it can also be a setup when experienced in extremes. The following tips for PREPARE/ENRICH facilitators can assist in navigating the problems associated with unrealistic marriage expectations.

Tips for PREPARE/ENRICH facilitators:

    4. Create Dialogue:
    Healthy dialogue is a positive goal for this category. As you balance the feedback, review any agreement items, along with disagreement and special focus items. Allow the couple to discuss and wrestle with some of these items. You can even ask them questions such as: “Why do you think the authors of PREPARE would highlight this item as a potential problem?” or “Which statements sound the most believable to you? What is the potentially dangerous assumption behind each statement?”.

Marriage Expectations is a challenging, yet fun area of discussion for premarital couples, however whilst these couples often have a lot to discuss as they prepare for marriage, healthy dialogue about expectations is critical.

by Peter Larson, Ph.D.

Tune in next week for more interesting ideas and tips.

References: Olson, D. H. (2004). PREPARE/ENRICH Counselor’s Manual. Minneapolis: Life Innovations.
Slater, L. (2006). True Love. National Geographic. February, 32-49.

Source: Peter Larson, Ph.D. 
References: Olson, D. H. (2004). PREPARE/ENRICH Counselor’s Manual. Minneapolis: Life Innovations.
Slater, L. (2006). True Love. National Geographic. February, 32-49.

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