By Sheila Frye, guest author - Associated Counselors & Psychologists Sydney
Spotting an extrovert in a crowd is the exact opposite of finding a needle in a haystack. More often than not, extroverts are the ones who easily mingle with anyone whether it’s a familiar face or a fresh acquaintance. They know most people in the room—either that or they’re working on it. In some cases, they are the actual life of the party
Here’s the thing: making friends with an extrovert is the easy part. However, being in a relationship with one can be a bit taxing especially if you’re the more laidback type and prefer silence. The truth is, while extroverts are generally seen as happy people, they also encounter personality clashes, such as when their partner is more reserved or introverted.8. Invite them to take a break.
A typical day for an extrovert is likely to include lots of talking, being with people, or just being busy, but what they might not realize is that they are already too exhausted to function properly.
Since you’re the person looking in from the outside, observe your partner if he is already biting off more than he can chew. And when you think that he’s committing to more activities than he can attend, make the suggestion of taking a break. Instead of going out on a weekend, or worse, working, convince him get some real rest instead. If he can’t stand not doing anything, you can take on minor home improvement projects such as finally installing that pegboard in your home office.
A lot of extroverts are often misunderstood as happy-go-lucky people. But before you decide to join that bandwagon, you have to play fair with your partner and try looking at things from their perspective. Take advantage of the fact that extroverts like to talk, and make sure that you get your point across.
There are times when clashing of a couple’s personalities can’t be resolved between partners alone. If you have a reason to believe that you and your partner’s issue are bordering on being out of control, you can opt to escalate your relationship issues to a professional who can give you proper advice. In any case, it’s still worth trying these ways to show your love for your extrovert partner.
Below are the other tips!
- Allow them to socialise
- Give their activities a try
- Let them take charge
- Tell them when they become overwhelming
- Remind them of your needs
- Take part in decision making
- Appreciate what they bring to the table
- Invite them to take a break
- Don't take it personally
- Be prepared to compromise
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