By Sheila Frye, guest author - Associated Counselors & Psychologists Sydney
Spotting an extrovert in a crowd is the exact opposite of finding a needle in a haystack. More often than not, extroverts are the ones who easily mingle with anyone whether it’s a familiar face or a fresh acquaintance. They know most people in the room—either that or they’re working on it. In some cases, they are the actual life of the party
Here’s the thing: making friends with an extrovert is the easy part. However, being in a relationship with one can be a bit taxing especially if you’re the more laidback type and prefer silence. The truth is, while extroverts are generally seen as happy people, they also encounter personality clashes, such as when their partner is more reserved or introverted.6. Take part in decision making.
Another common trait among extroverts is their inclination to try everything and being adventurous. This is a good trait to have on many levels because it means that your partner is willing to do things and relish the experience. However, it can also prevent your extrovert partner from making choices especially under time constraints. In this case, you can take care of yourself by helping them list down options according to the level of priority.
If, for example, you’re going on a trip and sightseeing is on top of your list, your extrovert mate will surely want to visit as many places as possible. This is where you come in. Work together on your itinerary—from the places you’ll go to and the activities you’ll do—and stick to the schedule. This way you’ll have everything covered, but don’t forget to leave some room for spontaneity.
A lot of extroverts are often misunderstood as happy-go-lucky people. But before you decide to join that bandwagon, you have to play fair with your partner and try looking at things from their perspective. Take advantage of the fact that extroverts like to talk, and make sure that you get your point across.
There are times when clashing of a couple’s personalities can’t be resolved between partners alone. If you have a reason to believe that you and your partner’s issues are bordering on being out of control, you can opt to escalate your relationship problems to a professional who can give you proper advice. In any case, it’s still worth trying these ways to show your love for your extrovert partner.
Below are the other tips!
- Allow them to socialise
- Give their activities a try
- Let them take charge
- Tell them when they become overwhelming
- Remind them of your needs
- Take part in decision making
- Appreciate what they bring to the table
- Invite them to take a break
- Don't take it personally
- Be prepared to compromise
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