By Sheila Frye, guest author - Associated Counselors & Psychologists Sydney
Spotting an extrovert in a crowd is the exact opposite of finding a needle in a haystack. More often than not, extroverts are the ones who easily mingle with anyone whether it’s a familiar face or a fresh acquaintance. They know most people in the room—either that or they’re working on it. In some cases, they are the actual life of the party
Here’s the thing: making friends with an extrovert is the easy part. However, being in a relationship with one can be a bit taxing especially if you’re the more laidback type and can prefer silence. The truth is, while extroverts are generally seen as happy people, they also encounter personality clashes, such as when their SO is a more reserved one or an introvert.3. Let them take charge.
If you ask a roomful of people to get to know as many names as they can in a span of 10 minutes, it’s highly likely that an extrovert will win the game. It is in the nature of extroverts to initiate conversation whether they’re surrounded by friends or new faces. There may be times when you find it hard to keep up with your partner’s energy, but instead of asking an extrovert to slow down, let your mate take charge.
This trait can be quite useful especially if you’re a particularly shy person. Remember that restaurant you’ve been meaning to try but is always fully-booked? Let your partner try and make a reservation and see if his charisma will work on the concierge. Just make sure that you let him know how his extraversion helps in making both of your lives a bit easier so that he wouldn’t feel taken advantage of.
A lot of extroverts are often misunderstood as happy-go-lucky people. But before you decide to join that bandwagon, you have to play fair with your partner and try looking at things from their perspective. Take advantage of the fact that extroverts like to talk, and make sure that you get your point across.
There are times when clashing of a couple’s personalities can’t be resolved between partners alone. If you have a reason to believe that you and your partner’s issue are bordering on being out of control, you can opt to escalate your relationship issues to a professional who can give you proper advice. In any case, it’s still worth trying these ways to show your love for your extrovert partner.
- Allow them to socialise
- Give their activities a try
- Let them take charge
- Tell them when they become overwhelming
- Remind them of your needs
- Take part in decision making
- Appreciate what they bring to the table
- Invite them to take a break
- Don't take it personally
- Be prepared to compromise
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