By Sheila Frye, guest author - Associated Counselors & Psychologists Sydney
Spotting an extrovert in a crowd is the exact opposite of finding a needle in a haystack. More often than not, extroverts are the ones who easily mingle with anyone whether it’s a familiar face or a fresh acquaintance. They know most people in the room—either that or they’re working on it. In some cases, they are the actual life of the party
Here’s the thing: making friends with an extrovert is the easy part. However, being in a relationship with one can be a bit taxing especially if you’re the more laidback type and can prefer silence. The truth is, while extroverts are generally seen as happy people, they also encounter personality clashes, such as when their SO is a more reserved one or an introvert.2. Give their activities a try.
Since extroverts love being around people, it is normal for them to invite friends to do exciting things with or go places they think are fun. Being a partner to an extrovert, you can expect your SO to include you in his or her plans whether it’s watching a game with friends or an extreme sport. If your kneejerk response is to decline, reconsider and give it an honest shot.
You don’t always have to like what your partner does for amusement but there is merit in taking interest in the activities that allow them to channel their extraversion. Your partner will appreciate your effort in trying to see where he or she is coming from.
A lot of extroverts are often misunderstood as happy-go-lucky people. But before you decide to join that bandwagon, you have to play fair with your partner and try looking at things from their perspective. Take advantage of the fact that extroverts like to talk, and make sure that you get your point across.
There are times when clashing of a couple’s personalities can’t be resolved between partners alone. If you have a reason to believe that you and your partner’s issue are bordering on being out of control, you can opt to escalate your relationship issues to a professional who can give you proper advice. In any case, it’s still worth trying these ways to show your love for your extrovert partner.
- Allow them to socialise
- Give their activities a try
- Let them take charge
- Tell them when they become overwhelming
- Remind them of your needs
- Take part in decision making
- Appreciate what they bring to the table
- Invite them to take a break
- Don't take it personally
- Be prepared to compromise
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