Don't Neglect Skills Training
Sometime ago Michelle Simons and Robyn Parker wrote an article in which
relationship education services in Australia were reviewed
(Relationship education services.
Family
Matters, 2002,
63,
77-79). They wrote:
"The use of inventories differs from structured programs largely in
scale, and while at least two thirds of inventory users indicate that
skills training is incorporated into sessions with couples, it would
appear that the amount of skills training is rather limited in the
majority of cases. This, along with issues relating to follow up and
evaluation of inventory-based service activities, is an issue worthy of
further attention."
Seven years later, the challenges contained in this statement are just
as timely.
There are three worthwhile challenges to PREPARE-ENRICH Administrators
using the Prepare-Enrich inventories:
- We need to encourage
couples to learn new skills: The Building a Strong Marriage
booklet provides a good starting point for this, but the development of
skills can all to easily become over-shadowed by the feedback
process. Why not aim for a balanced approach in which feedback
and the development of skills (eg. good listening skills; constructive
ways of handling conflict) are both valued?
- We need to evaluate our
sessions with couples: We have thought about developing a
standard form for doing this, but feedback has suggested that there are
many different ways of doing this and that the form needs to be
suitable to each particular way of working with couples. Why not
develop a short set of questions that couples could answer so that you
can obtain some feedback about your way of working with couples?
- We need to be aware of
opportunities for follow-up: Premarital work can usefully be
followed up a year or so later. Why not plan with the couple to
take ENRICH after they have been married for a year?